by Dr. Gary Chapman
This is the conclusion of last week’s post, where I wrote about Love Languages and the different types.
Here are some quick tips to help figure out your love language:
– Examine your childhood
Try to remember how your parents expressed their love towards you.
What type of things made you feel loved? That may have translated to how you now express and receive it.
– What’s your first instinct when you want to show someone that you love them? Trust your instinct.
– How have you been deeply hurt in the past? What hurts the most? That can shed light on what your love language is.
Now that you know your love language, think about these love languages from your partner's perspective.
Can you identify their love language? You ask them to take the quiz instead of assuming.
Everyone is different and many of us don't realize that we speak different love languages. Another example – let’s say your love language is acts of service, and you take out the trash as a loving gesture.. depending on their love language, your partner may not see it that way. What we think is an act of love may not be seen that way by your wife/husband/SO. So we must learn and understand their love language if we want to make them feel loved.
The goal is to speak your partner's love language and fill up their love tank, like the gas tank in your car, you want to fill it up and keep it full. When your tank is full, our lives run at their best, or you can run on fumes, and eventually, you will burn out.
The secrets to the love that lasts is a simple, but very powerful book.
The first thing you need to do is find out your partner's love language. Do not assume what it is.
Then, commit to doing something special each week. something that ties into their primary love language.
“If your relationship is already running on fumes, then it may take a while for their love tank to get full, but keep at it and over time, you will reap the rewards.”
